Thoughts about hr and management in the real world – extra information I couldn't fit in my books!.

The 3 secret words to feeling better

The last 12 months have been surreal, stressful and bizarre. It’s been hard to focus when things in the world are so crazy and you didn’t know week to week what would happen.

Most people’s resilience has been tested and tested hard. So I thought I’d share something that has helped Fraser and I when we’ve been feeling upset, or a bit down, or unfocused.

It came about a few weeks into the first lockdown – this time last year. I was locked down in France and was giving my niece & nephew (8 & 10 years old) in the UK french lessons over Skype. We started off with daily lessons which soon became every other day, then once a week.

Neither of them were coping well with being off school and not seeing their friends – and were getting more and more upset and grumpy and not knowing how to deal with what they were feeling.

It culminated in one session where my sister called out frustratedly “Just feel better!!”

We did then discuss with my nephew how he was feeling about lockdown, but ‘just feel better!’ stuck with me.

Now whenever Fraser or I are grumpy, or can’t focus on work, or feel a bit overwhelmed, the other one will call out “Just feel better!”

It makes us laugh every time (because it’s kind of funny that it could be that simple!) but then we do actually do something that will make us feel better – go for a walk, make some lunch, go and chainsaw up some firewood (this one helps me no end!!).

In France they deliver firewood in 1m lengths. All you need to do is chainsaw them into 3 pieces so they fit in the wood-burner!

Even if we don’t really want to do anything and just curl up in a ball – we know that in fact a walk, or chainsawing will make a difference. So we do it. Sometimes even just laughing at ‘Just feel better!’ helps too.

So next time you you’re not feeling great – why not try out shouting “just feel better!” – smiling (which does actually help) and going and doing something to feel better.

As for my niece and nephew, they are very happy to be back at school finally. And they both feel better!!

Angela Atkins is the co-founder of Elephant Group who now operate in NZ, Australia, the UK, Canada and the US. She is the author of the Bites series of books and the Management Bites training programme. She now lives in the south west of France, renovating a 200+ year old house and chainsawing wood.


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